Yes I am back once again after a long break! I’m sorry I’ve not been able to keep my promise to update early but this post required a lot of preparation. I shied away from writing it down twice but I knew I should at some point. Some of you might not agree or not be pleased with what I have to say but nevertheless what I would be writing in this post has to be said!
Many of us are of the opinion that while wearing a hijab we should try our best to cover our “flaws” as much as possible , the purpose of a hijab is to cover I agree but I was under the idea that a hijab should cover all of our hair and drape modestly over our chest etc.
A hijab is meant to define us as strong Muslim women who choose to wear it as we are prescribed to by what we believe in, it is not supposed to portray a whole group of women who are insecure about how fat / how round / how long / how short their faces are. I am not talking about niqabi women by the way! Masha Allah I salute these strong sisters who choose to cover their faces despite the fact that people consider them as a stigma in our society.
I am talking about the hijabis who don’t cover their faces with a niqab but wrap it around like bandage trying to cover every inch of the perimeter of their faces because it is too big or too round. While styling hijabs I have faced this problem with many girls who feel insecure about this, I’m not talking plump girls (like myself) only! Slim girls with beautiful features, high cheekbones and lovely cheeks (Masha Allah) also have the same concerns. I blame society with their “skinny/malnourished is only acceptable” standards for this, it is truly depressing if you feel like you hate your face. You were made this way, embrace it! use your hijab to frame your face and not forcefully hide those cheekbones because you think it looks better hidden!
YOUR FACE IS NOT FAT!!
well even if you are “fat” as you say, what’s the point in showing just half of it when the rest of your body is going to give away the fact that you are not skinny?
I am fat, yes, I am over weight, I have a double chin and chubby cheeks but that’s me. I’m working on losing weight (being over weight isn’t healthy of course, and we should try our best to take care of the perfectly healthy bodies God has granted us). However I’m not going to show just half or a quarter of my face because I happen to have some additional fat on my face. There is a limit how much you can hide/reveal when you wrap your shawls but if you feel like people take some time to peer through all those layers to recognise you , you are probably overdoing the “hiding” of the additional fat.
Keeping this in mind, lets move to face shapes shall we?
Faces come in all shapes and sizes, there are many diagrams of face shapes and a standard hijab styles for all these face shapes on the internet but it is rather confusing for the individual who feels that their faces do not belong to any of the categories in the list. In my experience, most faces have a mix of two or more standard face shapes and how is one supposed to determine their perfect hijab style then?
While working with my hijab styling clients, I have learned a few important things along the way that determine a person’s hijab style in regards to their face shape. They are as follows:
1. Forehead length and width : Believe me your forehead plays a major part in determining your hijab style. To make things simple for you, I have divided basic forehead shapes to two:
a. Long , wide foreheads with a high hairline
b. Short, narrow foreheads with a low hairline
Long , wide foreheads with a high hairline
For type a , hijab styling is quite easy, you can choose to show your whole forehead or hide a bit of it without looking odd and if you are a fan of forehead jewellery like chains or tikas you are in luck because choosing such jewellery for type a foreheads is usually breeze. (This does NOT mean that type bs cannot use forehead jewellery, however the size and shape of such jewellery has to be carefully considered if you are a type b)
Type a s can usually pull of the the pastey round forehead hijab look without much hassle. Once again this does not mean that type b foreheads cannot do so, however much consideration and the length and volume of your hijab matters a lot to type b foreheads when doing so.
If you are not a fan of the “pasted to your forehead” hijab styles you can go for the more traditional “hooded” look with a low to mid level triangular lift of your hijabs that show your forehead moderately (both length and width) .
If you feel like you need to cover your forehead a little but still show that you have one you could also try to criss cross style which I will be showing you in this post, this style suits a lot of face types and gives one a completely new and flattering look.
Type b : Short, narrow foreheads with a low hairline
the best look for type b foreheads is the criss cross look, it is neat, classy, trendy and can easily be blended in to any occasion including a bridal hijab. Moreover it makes your face look longer and slimmer when wrapped properly.
Above is a quick tutorial for a simple hijab style with a criss cross face shape, you can choose to include the ruffled flower on the side or not. If you have really prominent cheeks and need to soften the effect without completely covering your cheekbones you can go for this look and leave the upper flap of your hijab just a little below the top of your cheeks and then wrap your shawl around so that softens the prominence of your cheek bones and gives you a nice “slimming” (or whatever you’d like to call it) effect to the whole look.
If you have no cheeks but still want to hide that double chin go for a wrap like this one:
Show the upper part of your face a bit more and loosely wrap your shawl behind your chin but over your double chin, a loose wrap underneath your chin gives the impression that you have no double chin instead of a tight wrap that gives the impression that you have to forcibly hide your facial fat that is spilling from your face!
Once again if you have a narrow forehead and is not a fan of the ‘pasted to your forehead’ styles you can go for a simple shawl wrap without a triangular hood effect but a simple raise of your rectangular shawls using the edge of the shawl framing your face, pinned securely under your chin.
A lace cap is an essential for this look, a narrow forehead means your have a low hairline and the purpose of your hijab is to cover your hair and not show a part of it sticking out from the top of your head, get yourself a pretty lace cap with a scalloped border; gives a beautiful finish to your outfits.
Now that we are done with types of foreheads lets focus on the other factors that play a major role in making your hijab style perfect for your face.
Skin tight hijabs that look like swimming caps are obviously not suitable and would look completely ridiculous so do styles that have too much volume that makes one look like they’ve stuffed all their bed clothing underneath their hijabs.
We live in a day and age where many think that the bigger your hijab is, the better you look. This is wrong! this may sound harsh but trust me gigantic hijabs freak most people out, they turn heads yeah, but I’m sure most of those glances are not ones of admiration but of ridicule. Please don’t make your hijabs, your Muslimah identity an object of ridicule.
That being said, when you look at it in a style related view, I feel that the overly large hijab might look eye catching on a runway but in daily life it becomes a hassle, uncomfortable, the object of weird looks and stares and above all inappropriate especially with your work outfits.
I know what most of you might say, the style originated in the middle east which is home to a lot of hijab friendly designers and where a lot of trends for hijabis originate, you might argue that a lot of fashion icons sport this look as well, it is their personal choice and I have nothing to say against any such designer/fashion guru etc. I am merely telling you my point of view and how many people around me view the ridiculous giant hijab trend.
However I’m not against adding a little volume to your hijabs, a few folds may make your face look fuller or make you look proportional with your outfits but don’t overdo it. Like all trends, take it in moderation.
If you have a thin face a little volume is a great way to add proportion to your final look. Once again don’t overdo it so that people see your hijab before they see your face.
If you have large face you might want to hold off on not adding volume to your hijab, especially if you are using pashminas or crinkle shawls a loose wrap with a fold or two usually does the trick.
3. Hooded hijabs
A lot of people prefer the traditional lifted hooded style , this choice of hijab style is really classy and elegant when worn well but of late I’ve seen hijabis overdoing the hooded effect. I’m not exaggerating here! The hoods are so stiff and raised up really high like a roof! Don’t let people see your hooded hijab before they see you!
This post took me almost a month to write, I debated on actually publishing it on my blog or not, but here goes! This is my personal view based on my experience with styling hijabs it doesn’t necessarily have to be your view . So please don’t pass me off as a “hijabist” (my equal to racist in hijabi lingo)
I hope you ladies will find this post useful!
*I’ve been drowning in work the past few weeks and I’m now taking a bit of a break for a few weeks due to health reasons, you will find updates on my pages in about a week hopefully in sha Allah.
Hope you all had a lovely break and a great Eid ul Adha !