Once again I am back with a post for all those brides to be! this one will be informative for all brides (and a lot of grooms as well! ) . As I have been working as a bridal hijab stylist/bouquet & accessory designer for nearly four years, I have learned a bit about how things are done and what mistakes should be avoided .
So lets get started shall we?
The magical day most of you were dreaming about ever since you watched your first disney movie and saw the prince and princess live “happily ever after” is finally in sight! However getting there in those movies were easy, snow white would have probably sung a song and the birds and woodland creatures would have fashioned her gown and decorated the venue but it isn’t so simple in real life now is it? There are MANY things to consider before getting married (apart from the obvious reasons being your partner of choice and the life you have envisioned for yourselves) and I have decided to highlight on the most basic and important ones you need to start with as soon as you decide to get married .
How will you be celebrating your marriage? For a lot of us , a wedding is expected to follow a marriage ceremony however this need not be the case for everyone . A lot of couples Ive worked with have a simple marriage ceremony at home and take some pictures (in a studio or outdoors while on the honeymoon) wearing wedding attire (gown/traditional clothing/etc.) . I once met a bride who planned to have a photo shoot by the beach and then have a BBQ with friends wearing labelled t shirts for “bride” , “groom” etc. (sounds fun right? ) . If you are planning to have a party / parties make sure what you have in mind for each event and make sure to combine those ideas with the most important people ; your partner , your family and your partner’s family. This is something that you should FINALIZE before you meet any vendors etc.
Set a budget : Once you have decided how you’d like your marriage to be celebrated it is time to set a budget. As a person working in the wedding industry I can say for sure that it makes work easier for us as well. However , be realistic with how much you want to spend for each and every aspect of your wedding. Call vendors, visit shops/websites etc and learn what the price ranges are for everything : venues, catering, clothing, jewellery, beauty treatments, makeup, photography/video, travel, stationery ,decor, planner etc. Once that is done, allocate how much you would like spend . My advice : don’t go for cheapest option without considering the quality of the end product or service, read reviews and ask around for recommendations. You get what you pay for so consider how important the items on your wedding checklist are to you and prioritize accordingly (i.e:what is most / least important to you ).
Visualize your wedding, Start planning choose those you can plan with: Now start focusing on the details, the venue , the decoration, your dress, the number of bridesmaids/flower girls etc. Each and every one of your personal choices have some meaning to most of you so decide on what You and your partner want YOUR WEDDING to look like before you start letting in the flood of ideas from well wishers around you . This brings out the true meaning of a wedding (i.e : celebrate both of you as a married couple with your loved ones). Once you start listening to other ideas feel free to pick and choose which ones you and your partner would like to take in to consideration. Keep the wedding planning committee to a preferable small group of friends/family as people tend to have different ideas and the wedding may turn out to be something you didn’t envision for yourselves when you started planning .
Have a general idea of what you want : Do you want crystals and chandeliers or rustic and laid back? These are important questions you need to ask yourself and your partner before planning a wedding. These are important points to discuss with all your vendors especially those involved with decor, floral arrangements etc. You may not know every detail of what you want but once you give them the general idea of what you have in mind they can coordinate their work accordingly. As someone working in the wedding industry I have always had the world “simple” thrown about from many brides who want their hijabs/bouquets made. Let me tell you that the word simple isn’t actually so simple to define. Everyone has their own definition of what simple is (and that may not be simple at all!). What I am trying to say is; it is difficult for all of us to work our magic with just the word ” simple” as a guideline.
Set a timeline : Write down which goals you need to achieve during the first three/six , month/months of your wedding planning (Depending on how long you have left till your wedding date) . An ideal phase one list of goals would be deciding on a celebration, venue, theme and most importantly budget allocated for the festivities.
I hope to keep these posts coming and I hope you will find them useful!